Almost every day, news of women seriously battered or even murdered by their abusive partner make headlines. Such news makes many concerned observers question why women don’t up and leave an abusive relationship. Why don’t they stand up to their abusive partners? Why do they remain in the marriage or relationship, sleeping in the same bed and eating from the same plate with the men who inflict these malicious acts of violence on them?
Some of these abused women even go as far as defending the actions of their abusive partners. Why? Why are some women scared of standing up to their abusive partner?
Lack of confidence in themselves or low self-esteem is one of the major reasons why women don’t stand up to their abusive partners. They believe that they deserve whatever their partner dishes out to them. This damaged self-worth is often as a result of undergoing years of degrading treatment either in the hands of their partner or their parents as a child.
These abusive partners can sometimes, make the woman feel like they are worthless or that they did something wrong and deserve to be punished for it.
Many women who suffer abuse at the hands of their partners endure it because of their children. They sacrifice their own safety to ensure their kids are protected and cared for, without considering what would happen when their abusive partner beats them to death and they have to leave their kids behind.
Lack of adequate finance to fend for themselves is another major reason why some women remain in an abusive relationship. Often times, the abusers are in control of the financial life of the woman: making it difficult for her to keep jobs. And if there are kids to take care of, the woman is usually forced to stay for the sake of benefiting the children.
In many cultures and religions of the world, divorce or separating from your husband is not acceptable. When you do so, you are either scorned for it or made to feel ashamed. If the woman’s family especially, chooses to embrace the culture than welcome back their daughter with open arms, the woman will be scared of being without a husband and family support. So she stays even though she wants to leave, all because it would dishonor her family.
Danger And Fear
Fear of what their partner will do to them if they leave the relationship is another major reason many women endure an abusive relationship. Abusers often threaten to hunt them down and do terrible things to them or their loved ones. So they stay out of fear of bodily and emotional harm.
These are 5 common reasons why some women are scared of standing up to their abusive partner. Do you know a woman who’s facing abuse in her relationship, show her support and encouragement? What victims of abuse need the most is support and encouragement, not criticism. Women who are abused often don’t speak out because they fear being judged or ostracized.