There is no single recipe for a successful relationship because what you and your partner may be bingeing on may be a huge turn off in another relationship. That’s one reason why there’s a thing like ‘finding the one’ or ‘Mr right’—our personalities are different, we seek to be with someone that can get us and roll well with us.
However, if you take time to observe a number of thriving relationships, you’d discover that they all have one or ten things in common. And that’s what this article will be shedding light on—those qualities you will find in almost every successful relationship.
If you think you are in a successful relationship, it is probably because your relationship possesses any one of the following characteristics:
Couples who genuinely like the kind of person that their partner is and love hanging out with them as friends tend to have a lasting relationship. If you consider your partner as a friend or even a best friend, then your relationship is most likely a successful one.
You argue or fight because both of you do not dismiss your feelings and thoughts in a bid to make the other person comfortable. You argue but you do it well: rationally discussing the issue and making compromises. Conversations between the both of you flows very well, you don’t feel scared or uncomfortable to talk about the difficult or ugly stuffs.
There are various levels of intimacy: physical, sexual and mental. Sharing all of that with your spouse makes you feel cared for and more confident about the relationship. If sex is a priority in your relationship, affection is present and you are able to open up to your spouse about difficult personal issues you have, then you’ve got this ingredient.
You collaborate well together and are able to share certain responsibilities to help each other out. Neither one of you harbours any feeling of ‘unfairness’ towards the other. And even though you both have your separate interests and hobbies, you do a good number of things together.
If you don’t understand your partner, you will be holding grudges against them and having unnecessary fights. Understanding makes it possible to forgive and let go. The best way to understand this person you didn’t grow up with is by studying them and accepting them for who they are.
There’s no way you can enjoy a good relationship with someone you don’t have any atom of respect for. Respect has to be reciprocal for the relationship to thrive.
You can’t rely on someone you don’t trust. If either of you has a history of not sticking to your word or being shady, it will be hard for trust or reliability to exist in your relationship. Trust is a key ingredient in every successful relationship.