These days, couples are ditching the traditional wedding vows in favor of more personal vows that sum up the love they have for each other. However, it is one thing to know why you are choosing to spend the rest of your life with your spouse but quite another thing to paint your feelings in words.
Almost every bride and groom whose wedding vows to each other wowed you went through the stage of feeling overwhelmed about writing their wedding vows. Writing your own wedding vows can be a tremendous undertaking but it is well worth it. It is your chance to not only share sweet and meaningful words with the love of your life but to also make guests understand the significance of that day to you.
These tips on how to write the perfect wedding vows should help you get right down to writing the most meaningful vows:
Know What Your Partner Wants
You and your partner have got to be in it together. Even if the both of you are writing separate vows, knowing the kind of style, format or tone your spouse wants will make it easier for you to get started. It is important that you both decide what you prefer.
Go Back In Time
Surrounding yourself with memories of the moments you shared together can get the words flowing unbidden. Inspire yourself with old photographs, old social media chats or special keepsakes—anything that will have you remembering why you two started dating in the first place or holding on to each other even during trying times. When you go back in time, you will discover that ideas will start scrambling for space in your mind.
Keep It Short
You can give your guests an intimate peek into the love you have for each other using a personal story or an anecdote but try to keep it short. Why did you decide to choose your partner? What made you realize you love him/her? All these are nice points to help you put together a perfect wedding vow but remember to keep it short—you don’t want to bore your guests. Besides, the shorter and more meaningful your vows are, the more power it has to create a resounding or heartwarming effect.
Make A List Of Promises
What is a wedding vow without a list of promises? Since you’re not going the traditional route of “vowing to have, hold, love, and cherish, in sickness and in death, until death do you part,” ensure to infuse in your own version genuine promises that your partner can connect with.
It goes without saying that you should be true to yourself. Let your wedding vows align with what interests you and your partner. That you liked the wedding vow your friend shared with his/her partner on their wedding day doesn’t mean you should use a similar theme. Relationships are not the same. Aim to write a wedding vow that is true to what you and your partner love and enjoy.
Read It Out Loud
Lastly, before you wrap up the piece of paper containing your wedding vows, practice reading it out. Reading out your vows will help you discover any part that needs improvement. Your wedding vows should sound conversational, so as you read it out, pay attention to the flow of words.