What is worse than being taken for granted by the one you love? Probably being confused about whether they are taking you for granted or not. At least, when you know for sure that you are not a priority for them, you could grief for ‘what-could-have-been’ for a few months and then move on to better things.
Being taken for granted hurts! Even Beyonce understands how painful it can be to be taken for granted. If she were a boy, she sang, she won’t take the one she wants for granted because she knows how much it hurts to be taken for granted.
Have you been feeling undervalued lately or unsure about where you stand in your partner’s life? These 5 telltale signs that show your partner is taking you for granted can make things clearer for you:
They Don’t Include You In Their Plans
If they make plans without taking you into account, it means that they don’t respect you. You only respect those you value or hold in high esteem. So if your partner is constantly canceling your date night plan at the last minute, signing up for a night out without letting you know, assuming a job position that will have them leave the state or country without informing you early enough and so on, it means they are taking you for granted.
Your Partner Never Tells You Thank You
No matter what you do for your partner, they just never acknowledge you or deem it fit to say ‘thank you.’ Things you used to do before that will make your partner so happy and earn you a big, loud kiss on the cheek, you do it now and all you get is indifference or even berating words. If this is how it goes down in your relationship now, there are no two ways about it—your partner is taking you for granted.
You Do All The Chores
A relationship is about two people working together as a team, supporting and helping each other. One person shouldn’t carry all the weight in a relationship. When responsibilities are not fairly distributed in a relationship, it often leads to feelings of resentment as you will feel your partner doesn’t care about you.
If your partner just sits back while you run around throwing the trash, doing the dishes, grocery shopping and picking the kids from school, you may want to sit them down and express how doing all that makes you feel taken for granted.
Your Partner Doesn’t Ask For Your Opinion
If your partner values your opinion, he/she will ask for it. So if they are always making decisions that affect you without bothering to ask what you think, then you should know by now that they are taking you for granted.
They Just Don’t Make Any Effort In The Relationship
Be it house chores, financial contribution or emotional support—your partner will give their own quota if they care for, respect and cherish you.