The death of a loved one is a very painful loss to deal with but one that we cannot escape. Death is a part of human existence and at one point or the other, we all experience grief. Waves of grief may come and go over months or years. Sometimes, it may feel like the pain will never end. Although working through grief can be a long and difficult process, there are things you can do to help yourself cope and adapt.
Allow Yourself To Experience The Loss
Grief comes with hurt and pain but experts have also agreed that it is natural and healthy. You are allowed to get over your pain so don’t bottle yourself with guilt about moving on. Let yourself grieve and fully experience your feelings, such as shock, sadness, anger, and loneliness. Don’t judge yourself for any feelings you have, even if you think you shouldn’t have them. Some people set aside private time every day to think about their loved one and experience the feelings that arise. This approach is especially helpful for those who have difficulty showing their feelings to others. One of the key things to remember is that everyone grieves uniquely. It doesn’t help to compare yourself to others.
Share Your Emotions With Others
Talking about your loss and sadness with loved ones help you to release bottled up feelings and process your grief. Now is not the time to be strong, it is the time to be human. Tell another person what’s in your heart, even if it is just you miss them. It’s about being heard, sharing that feeling to let your feelings be normal. Reassure them that you don’t expect them to have answers; you just hope that they can listen. If you feel uncomfortable talking to a relative or friend, there are professionals and peer support groups on hand,
Be Patient With Yourself
Allow your grief to unfold at a pace that is natural for you. Don’t judge or criticize yourself for not coping as well or healing as quickly as you think you should. Each person needs to grieve in ways that feel right for them. Do things in your own time, there’s no rush. There are no stages to grief, it’s forever but you learn to manage it and to see a positive future
Give Yourself A Break From Grieving
It is healthy to take breaks from grieving with pleasant activities and interactions with supportive family members and friends. People need a break from the pain of grieving. Part of adapting to a loss is to go back and forth between focusing on the loss and finding a way to be in the world without the person you lost. For example, you might choose to go to dinner with friends, take a relaxing bath, watch a movie, start a new hobby, or enjoy the outdoors. It is good for you to enjoy yourself and okay to laugh and feel happy, despite your loss.
Caring for your wellbeing is paramount after a loss, no matter how hard you find it to get out of bed. It is important to attend to your physical needs during the period after a loss. Grieving is both emotionally and physically exhausting. Care Prioritize your needs and nourish your body. Try to eat regular meals, get lots of rest and avoid things such as alcohol and drugs to numb pain. Aim to complete small tasks each day, to give you focus. Breathing exercises or mindfulness apps can help to find peace within the stress and sadness.