Having a rock-solid friendship would be the starting point of a successfully marriage. For this reason, there are things to pay attention to, to establish a refined friendship. For some, they like to sweep things under the rug or throw caution to the wind, this is not advisable. Discuss everything with your partner; from finance to the number of children and, in the case of long-distance relationship, who will move for whom. It’s been shown time and time again that people who spend years getting to know each other are less likely to get a divorce.
Jumping into anything is never advisable, most especially, marriage. Marriage is delicate and devoting to spend your life with one person is a serious business that should not be taken lightly. The getting-to-know-each-other phase is very important. So many people do not know the person they are dating. It could be simple things like their favorite color or TV show to more complex things to their fears, life goals, and personality traits.
When a couple jump into marriage, the first thing they complain of is a feeling of not knowing their partner. A feeling of regret.
One thing to keep in mind is that length doesn’t necessarily equal substance. The fact that you have been dating someone for years does not mean that you know them. To know someone, you have to identify what it is about them you are yet to know and make conscious effort in not just knowing but understanding it.
The reason why a few years of dating is advised is because there is so much someone can pretend. Anything above two years is enough for anyone to show who they really are.
Very few things changes someone’s life like getting married. Marriage can be the best thing that’s ever happened to you or the worst. Approach it with both the heart and head for one without the other could be detrimental.
