Finding the right partner in this world where dishonesty thrives and true love is rare is hard. Oh, we forgot to mention the high rate of divorce in our society. So, if you have found someone who gets you, someone who worships the ground you walk on, it is important that you cherish them and love them as much as they love you.
If you are in a marriage with a loving spouse, there are certain things you shouldn’t say or do to your spouse no matter how angry you are. This list is in no order of importance.
Do Not Compare
Even if Bill Gates himself came to ask for your hand in marriage, you didn’t end up with Bill Gates; you ended up with your spouse. So, if your spouse is doing badly financially or otherwise, do not compare what you should have had with what you have now.
Do Not Tell Your Partner Outrightly That He/She Is Lying
Trust is hard, but since you decided to get married, you should know how to trust. If you are someone dealing with insecurity, it is easy to accuse your partner of cheating when he or she breathes; it is essential to trust your partner. Instead of telling your partner that you do not believe what he/she just said, you can say something like ‘I am having a hard time trying to believe you.’ The later is better and more respectful.
Do Not Threaten Your Partner With Separation
For every argument you have, you will start to tell your partner how you will send her out. As a female, if you always talk to your partner about walking away whenever there is a disagreement, you should stop that. In a marriage, you agree to disagree. If you react with threats whenever you have a dispute with your spouse, you are not ready to stay in a marriage.
Refusing Your Partner Sex Or Depriving Your Partner Of Food
If you refuse to have sex with your partner because you are ill or not in the mood, it is quite understandable, but if the reason you are refusing to get down with your partner is that you are pissed because of an argument you guys had in the day, you should try to change.
Do Not Go To Bed Angry
If you disagree with your partner and it leads to an argument, make sure to resolve the argument that day. It is unhealthy to go to bed angry. While this is difficult, it is doable. Studies show that couple who address their issues before they go to bed are happier than those who go to bed angry.
Do Not Beat Your Spouse
We have heard lame talk like ‘I beat her to correct her.’ Yeah, you read that right. A lot of women stay in violent homes because they have nothing to fall back on, some men beat their wives and, in their defense, they do it to correct her. Please, there is nothing like hitting a grown woman or a grown man to fix the person. So, stop domestic violence.
Do Not Share Your Family Issues With A 3rd Party
If you are the type that takes your family issues to every Dick, Tom, and Harry, especially the challenges you face in your marriage, you should try to stop that. Talk to your spouse about your marital issues, do not talk about your spouse to others. Also, if you are not a family vlogger like Adanna and David Steinecker, you should learn to take somethings off social media. The internet never forgets, never forget that.
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