According to romantic comedies, “Yes, of course, I will marry you!” is the only possible answer to a marriage proposal. In real life, however, things don’t always work out. You have every right to turn down a marriage proposal if you don’t really want to marry the person who’s popped the question.
Marriage is a long-time commitment in life, therefore, you have to be convinced that your spouse is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
If you are uncertain of the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with or you are not certain if you are truly ready to embark on this journey called “marriage”, then it is only logical to turn down a marriage proposal.
We have listed ways to politely turn down an unwanted marriage proposal.
Be Firm And Honest
When turning down a proposal, you have to be firm but polite. This will prevent you from been cajoled into accepting the proposal when you are not ready to spend the rest of your life with the person. You should also be honest by having a conversation with the person either via one on one conversation or phone call.
Let Your No Come With Love
If you have to deal with a public proposal, don’t cause a scene. Give the person proposing a gentle hug and ask them quietly to go somewhere more private. You shouldn’t say no while you’re being watched, but at the same time you shouldn’t say yes just to get out of the situation and give your real response later.
Break The News Gently
Just like the above, do it with love. First of all, thank the suitor and tell them you’re very moved and honored. Then give them the reason you can’t marry them without being misleading. Be honest with them (and yourself). If you’re not ready for marriage yet, just say so. Tell them you love them, but you’re not ready for this kind of commitment. If you can’t see yourself being married to this particular person, say it without being mean. For example, “You’re a good man/woman, but I don’t think our marriage is going to work out.”
Do Not Mislead With Your Body Language
It is quite easy to get carried away when being proposed to but you should be able to let the person know via your body language that you’re not interested in the marriage proposal. Your body language should go along with whatever you have to say. Also, you should look into your partner’s eyes affectionately then place your hand over theirs, and give your response in a gentle voice.
Get Out Of The Place As Soon As Possible
After rejecting the proposal, it is only logical that you find a way of leaving as soon as possible. This will prevent you from being questioned or for you to have a change of mind. Therefore, the earlier you leave the venue, the better.