Uncertainty, fear, and indecisiveness are usually what holds us back from moving on. Because you are not sure of a better future without your partner, you hold on to the relationship. Or because you fear to break up and later regretting your decision.
When the issue that made you think of breaking up pops up again, you feel ready to call it quits at that moment but then comes the uncertainty and fear again—the cycle repeats itself. Even when you succeed in breaking up, you find yourself diving back in into the relationship again and again.
How do you know when breaking up for good is the right step to take?
Serious Personality Differences
When you and your partner’s values, beliefs and morals are misaligned, there will be a disconnection in your relationship. It’s not like the both of you can be completely alike, no—that would be boring and weird of course. But to some extent, you should be able to agree on a good number of things as partners.
When there is a mountain of differences between the both of you, it will be extremely difficult for that relationship to work. If, for instance, his/her spending habits makes you feel very uncomfortable, best believe that walking out of the relationship may be the right step you should take.
You’re More Miserable Than Happy
Relationship will always have potholes—that’s inevitable. A healthy relationship is one in which both partners are ready to team up and scale through those potholes. It is normal that you won’t always be happy in your relationship. However, when your relationship makes you feel miserable than it makes you happy, that is a huge problem.
You Can’t See A Future Together
When you imagine tying the knot or walking down the aisle with your partner, how do you feel? Panicky? Sick? If yes, it means there is a part of you that knows the both of you are not good together. You have so many inconsistencies and incompatibilities between you to envision a future together.
You Don’t Communicate Well
What’s the point of being in a relationship that has you feeling stifled? You should be able to express your fears, desires, dream, thoughts and deepest feelings to your partner without double-thinking it. You can’t have a strong bond or be intimate with your partner if the both of you are incapable of having heartfelt communication.
The Cons Outweigh The Pros
If you still can’t make up your mind to break up with your partner even after identifying some of the above-listed flaws in your relationship, you might want to try balancing your relationship on a scale to weigh it. List out the advantages of remaining in the relationship and then outline the disadvantages. If there are more disadvantages than there are advantages, you should know it is time to break up for good.
Breaking up from a relationship can be difficult sometimes but also very necessary. You don’t want to waste years of your life being in a relationship that isn’t right for you.