Breaking up with someone you love or really care about can feel like the end of the world. Like what are you without this person in your life? You’ve gotten so attached to them and now you can’t stop going back and forth in your mind wondering if you were really the one at fault. You spend most of your days after the breakup playing in your head, a montage of the time you shared together and feeling sad.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. You shouldn’t let your life fall apart or simply stop living all because someone left your life. There are better ways you can handle the pain of breakup that will have you bouncing back and breaking through in no time. See the tips below:
Shut The Lid On ‘what ifs’
Stop already with the what-ifs, if only I had, if s/he had just, and I should have. The only place those thought patterns usually lead to is more despair. Although it can be difficult, you’ve got to accept that your relationship has expired. When it did expire doesn’t matter, nothing lasts forever—even true love(death happens too). Like earlier stated, this can be very difficult to do but it is necessary to reframe your story about the breakup.
Quit it with checking out what your ex is up to on social media—that’s basically you bingeing on hurt and more hurt. Don’t text, email, call to check in or check their friends’ newsfeed for updates. No matter how strong you may think you are, seeing your ex all excited or carrying on as if nothing life changing happened will hurt you.
Take Care Of Your Basic Needs
Start dating yourself now that you are no longer in a relationship. Your priority now should be working on yourself—there’s no more boyfriend/girlfriend to leave the ‘caring’ task for. So start putting your needs first and being conscious of your emotional, physical, spiritual and intellectual needs.
Own Your Faults
You can’t bounce back from your breakup if you refuse to accept that you did anything wrong. Carefully assess the damages that led to the expiration of the relationship and ask yourself what your part was. To take ownership of yourself, you’ve got to accept and forgive.
Express Yourself In Creative Ways
What is that creative activity you love doing? Is it writing, drawing, singing, dancing or baking? Engage in those activities, hard though it may be. Soon enough, you’d find that you were able to go on for minutes without your ex crossing your mind—that’s progress. Intrinsically, everyone wants to be happy, so be gentle with yourself and do that which makes you happy.
Hope you found these tips helpful?