There is never an easy way to deal with a cheating partner, only a better way. The moment you discover that your spouse is cheating on you, you are immediately hit with three different emotions: shock, confusion, and anger. It is often hard to believe that this man or this woman who treats you like an angel has someone else they treat the same way. You wonder if your spouse ever really loved you and what exactly their motive for cheating is.
Then, the anger: why waste your time pretending they loved you when they could have been honest about their feelings and leave you be to welcome someone else who truly wants to be with you? Confronting your spouse at this time may not be a wise thing to do. The following are expert tips on how to handle a cheating spouse:
Acknowledge Your Feelings
Do you want to cry? Cry. Do you want to scream? Get a pillow and scream into it. Don’t talk to your partner just yet till you are more collected and composed, you don’t want to end up saying or doing things you will regret. Of course, even after you try to fix the issue in your relationship, you will still have moments you feel sad about what happened. Always acknowledge your feelings and try to move on from it.
Avoid The Blame Game
Blaming yourself for not being slim enough, beautiful enough or sexually skilled enough won’t do any good. What’s done is done, blaming yourself, your partner or the side chic/third party will only make you feel bad and helpless.
Assess Your Situation
It is normal to want to know why your partner cheated. Listen to their explanations without making any assumptions so you can assess the status of your situation. An affair with an old flame is difficult to forgive because you will always wonder if your spouse’s heart is still with his/her ex.
If you think you need space and time to work through your feelings, go someplace safe and give yourself some time.
Don’t Seek Revenge
People often make the mistake of trash-talking their partner on social media or going down and naked with someone else when they find out about their spouse’s infidelity. While doing any of that may give you a sense of satisfaction at that moment, healing and really moving on may become difficult as a result because you will be holding on to your anger.
Take Care Of Yourself
This is very important. Go get tested for STDs and try your best to carry on with your daily activities. You may lack appetite or feel like overeating during this period, do neither. Make your health a priority and try to get enough sleep. Lastly, ensure you have some fun.