After many years of man hunting, you finally fall in love with the man of your dreams. Maybe he is tall, dark, handsome, a member of the bearded gang or he is just how you like him, but you have a feeling that something is off somewhere.
You have been doing all you can. You have read articles with regards to keeping your man, you have watched movies, you even follow relationship advisers on social media who tell you that to keep your man, you have to pray for him, cook for him, wash his clothes with your hands, show him that you are a beast in bed and do every other thing. They have assured you that if you follow their guidelines, your man will stick with you. After following all these rules, you still feel that something is just not right in the relationship. Then you begin to doubt all your actions.
If the issue above is your problem, you are dating someone who is not into you. Let us put it politely, you are dating yourself. Here are 5 signs he is not into you.
You Are Always The One Communicating
Even though we do not really listen to relationship advisers, we have to take a key point from them. Communication is very essential in a relationship. If you are always the one calling, fixing dates, checking up, doing everything, the dude is just not into you. Get the memo and move on with your life.
He Is Not Talking About The Future
While all relationships cannot lead to marriage, you know there is a tiny part of you that hopes that yours will. Except it’s a “friends with benefit” situation, you guys are supposed to plan your future together. Talk about your likes, marriage, how many kids you want to have, career, finances and every other thing. So, if your partner is not even dropping hints about the future, that’s a sign he is not into you.
You Are The One Investing
When we say investing, it’s not just about the money, it’s also about ideas. How can you date someone who is not interested in your progress? Like, you are always the one helping out when he is stuck with a problem and he never does the same for you. He is either too busy or you are moving too fast.
You Have Never Met His Friends Or Family
Okay, friends. Family is when you guys are very serious. If you are dating someone and he has not introduced you to his friends, his goons, you guys must be joking. Someone who takes you seriously would not be ashamed to flaunt you in front of his friends. So, if you do not know his friends even after 3-6 months of dating, that’s a major sign he is not into you.
He Talks About How Lucky Your Husband Will Be
We saw a joke sometime last year where a guy told his girlfriend that whoever will marry her is lucky and she almost passed out. The guy took himself out of the equation because he is obviously not thinking of a future with her, but he is allowing her to invest everything she has on their relationship. We think guys can do better by telling a lady they are not feeling the relationship instead of leading her on. If your boyfriend tells you ‘whoever will marry you is so lucky’, you are in a relationship with yourself.
If more of the above signs he is not into you apply to you, evaluate your relationship and decide if it is worth your time and stress or not. Relationships are not jokes, you don’t want to make a mistake with the wrong person.