Get in here dudes, women had their own first date tips—ladies first, right? And you need your own empowerment too so you will know how to relate with these empowered women. Our first date tips for guys have got you covered.
Let’s set the scene. At first, she wouldn’t give you her contact and because you really wanted to know her better, you kept using all the charms you could muster until she finally yielded. And though you’re experienced when it comes to women and dating, you find yourself feeling nervous about your first date with her. After all, women come in various shades and what works for one may not work for another. You are right!
However, you’d agree that there are certain generalities many women agree with when it comes to men. Body odor? No-no. Responsible and kind? A big yes.
Women may be ‘complicated’ but your evening won’t end with you wondering ‘what just happened?’ with a puzzled look on your face when you use these tips:
Some men think they only have to impress women with their lavish spending. While that may work for some women—who probably want to have flings with you, it won’t work for most women. Appearance matters, especially on a first date, women want to hang out with guys they can be proud to be seen with. So dude, put some effort to your dressing. Don’t dash out of the house wearing a shirt that reeks of armpit sweat, freshen up!
Arriving your date venue several minutes later than the time you both agreed on may suggest arrogance or lack of seriousness. Ladies love to be seen as a priority and showing up late may make her think you don’t see her as one or you’d have planned your day better—not a good start. If at all, you feel you won’t make it on time, call her and explain. As a mature lady, she will understand. Don’t text your explanation; you may not be able to convey your message very well.
Listen And Don’t Be A Chatterbox
If there’s anything to be learnt from movies like Seven and a Half Dates or When Love Happens, it’s that you will puncture any iota of attraction a woman has for you when you talk too much about yourself. Pause, hear her out too—it’s not an interview where you have to try so hard to impress, it’s a date. Ask intelligent questions and try not to interrupt while she answers. Make eye contact and don’t allow your phone to distract you. Listening shows that you are interested.
Till you’ve scored several dates with her, try to hold off on acting in ways that may be funny to your friends but weird to her. She doesn’t know you yet and can’t know everything about you in one single date—take it slow. Don’t scare her off with creepy details of some insane thing you did in college.
Know if She Wants To Split The Bill
In this age of feminism, you’d do well to settle the issue of who will pay for the meal before the bill arrives. You can avoid unnecessary uncertainty and misunderstanding when you just ask upfront if she minds splitting the bill. Or you could tell her straightaway before the date that you want to give her a treat and drinks are on you. Even if the lady is not a feminist, she may like paying her own bill to avoid issues with guys who feel you owe them because they spent money on you.
There’s no sense in making her wait if you liked hanging out with her and want to see her again. Contact her the following day at least. She may think you didn’t have a great time with her or are too busy to be bothered when you don’t follow up as early as possible.