If you are looking forward to getting married or are already engaged, there’s no doubt that you hope to have a great marriage. And that’s a good thing to look forward to but a great, happy or long-lasting marriage won’t descend from heaven to sit on your laps. A successful marriage requires consistent effort and the earlier you start, the better.
So before you even sign those marriage papers, it’s important that you engage in a premarital conversation with your partner about cultivating habits that makes for a healthy marriage. A healthy romantic relationship will possess the habits that will be listed below. These habits should already exist premarital lives of you and your spouse. They are worth having a conversation about if any of them are missing or seem off:
Effective Communication
Nearly every issue that arises in marriage revolves around communication. Couples fight when they don’t understand each other or share a similar opinion about a subject. Clearly communicating with a heart that’s willing to resolve the conflict automatically erases the problem. You should be able to talk with your partner about anything and everything—communication is key to a successful relationship.
Know the little things about your partner like their hobbies, biggest dream, greatest fear or favourite dessert. Knowing those things about them deepens your bond and friendship.
Time
How do you make out time from your schedules to be with each other? This is extremely important. You need to talk about the issue of time. Creating time for each other has to be an intentional decision. You can start practicing the habit of investing in each other on a daily basis right before you get married. During your shared time, try not to get distracted with technological devices.
Sex And Sex Talk
Couples who are able to connect physically have a stronger bond and live happier lives. Don’t make the mistake of venturing into marriage without talking about sex. You both have to be honest with each other for this to be effective—talk about your sexual fantasies and be specific.
In addition to that, sex tends to become less spontaneous overtime. To ensure that both of your sexual needs are met, you have to be able to tell each other what you want. Be intentional about creating time for sex.
Financial Management
This is another big marriage deal-breaker. Before walking down the aisle with your beloved partner, you may want to, first of all, have a discussion on how to manage money in your marriage. Being open and real with each other is key here. Some good questions to ask your partner about managing finances are:
- How do we share financial responsibilities?
- Are you a spender or a saver?
- What do you think about debt?
- Is amassing wealth important to you?
While having these premarital conversations, remember to accept your partner for who they are. Understand that you are not marrying them for who you want them to be but rather, for who they already are. There are healthy and productive ways of resolving conflict, follow that route when there are issues that need to be addressed.
