Dating can be a special type of shitshow, especially today with texting and every type of dating app imaginable available to you. Dating in the current climate is tough: we ghost, breadcrumb, and zombie one another quicker than you can swipe left.
The dating phase can be fun; that time when you meet someone and have jitters and butterflies in your stomach. However, it can also be the worst time of your life, depending on the people you meet. We’ve heard that relationships are complicated, and that is not far from reality. While dating someone, it’s easy to get carried away and make some mistakes along the way, but there are some unforgivable things. Here are six common mistakes most of us make while dating.
Stalking Your Date On Social Media
Tempting as it may be to find out where your new lover went to school, university and/or where they did their first work experience, pre-date social media stalking is not wise. A lot of what you find online might be untrue and could therefore give you a whole host of false preconceptions before you’ve even met your date in person. Refrain from deep-diving into their Instagram feed ahead of time. Besides, do you really need to know where they went on holiday last year, or what they had for breakfast in 2014?
Not Being Yourself
The worst mistake you can do is pretend to be someone you are not to impress the significant other. One, pretending can be exhausting, and you’ll only mislead the other person. You want someone to fall in love with the person that you are and not the fake version. Don’t build a relationship based on lies, especially if you are looking for a long-term one.
Talking About The Past
It’s no doubt that your past is still important since it shaped the person you are today. However, when trying to build something new, it’s essential not to bring up past relationships. No one wants to hear how much you hate your ex for breaking your heart. Talking about your exes could send the wrong message and even put off the potential partner.
Disclosing Too Much Too Soon
Be careful about revealing too much of yourself right off the bat. “Wait until this person knows you before you start revealing the intimate details of your life because disclosures that are too personal for the level of relationship can turn a partner off. Case in point: Save the stories about your ex for when the relationship progresses a bit more and you know each other better.
Texting While On A Date
It’s not only rude to be on your phone while on a date, but it also shows you are not interested in the other person. People quickly walk out of relationships when they are not given the attention they deserve. Don’t waste someone else’s time if you don’t want to be with them.
Snooping Through Someone’s Phone
The only message you’ll be sending by snooping through your spouse’s phone is that you don’t trust them. It’s crucial to respect someone’s privacy and talk to them about it when in doubt. This way, you avoid unnecessary arguments and build trust in the relationship.
Being Too Clingy
Nothing’s worse than a partner who is all over your business, especially when you’ve only gone out for like two dates. Most people are protective of their spouses, but in the first initial stages of dating, avoid being too clingy. Slowly learn about each other and forget about someone else trying to steal them.
Flirting With Other People
Most people have fallen culprit for this mistake and end up destroying the relationship before it even starts. For men, avoid wandering off your eyes and stare at other women or even flirting with the waitress when on a date with someone; it’s very disrespectful.
Going Too Fancy On The First Date
Keep first dates casual. Anything too prim and proper could come across as pretentious not to mention it sets the bar pretty high for any subsequent dates. Also, don’t get too drunk because, as you know, people make silly choices under the influence of alcohol.