It is easy to take our friends for granted especially when we have become very comfortable with them. It is important to note that there are daily habits that we can keep in mind to help us be better friends.
Here is a list below:
Share Both The Good And Bad
We all love our friends especially when they are good listeners. Just because your friend is a good shoulder to cry on does not mean you saddle them with only bad news. When things are going well for you, be sure to share it with them. Your friends could use some positive news as well.
Don’t Compete
It is unhealthy to compare yourself with your friends and try to outdo them. Everyone is in a race of their own and just because the journey of some is faster than that of others doesn’t mean either is better or worse.
Be A Good Listener
When your friends come to you with their troubles, it is not the best time for you to share that you have gone through or have a similar problem. Listen to them, sometimes, we just need a listening ear. Don’t shift the conversation to your own difficulties.
Support Your Friend’s Growth
If they change their mind about something and make a positive change in their life whether it be a new belief or behavior, don’t judge them negatively. Ideally, your friendships last over a period of time — meaning you’ll both grow along the way. Support healthy change and growth. Don’t crack sarcastic jokes or be condescending. You’re not a hypocrite for changing your mind or learning a new perspective along the way.
Don’t Assume They Don’t Need Help
Just because your friend appears strong and has it all together does not mean they can’t use some help too. That your friend is the one strong for everyone and always eager to offer help is a nice gesture but don’t think they can’t also use some.
Apologize When Wrong
You might want to (over) explain your side or justify your behavior, but it’s not just about you. Even if it was an accident or you had good intentions. It might seem like an excuse, so it’s best to just acknowledge your mistake and move on.
Set Boundaries
Selfishness has a negative connotation, but it’s a disservice to your friends if you’re secretly resenting them or being a Debbie Downer when you know you just don’t have the energy to socialize at the moment. Set boundaries. It’ll help you be a better friend when you want to be there for them and not when you feel obligated to be.
Walk Away From Toxic Friendships
This might seem obvious, but sometimes it’s hard to step back and take stock of our friendships. Maybe you’re so used to being there for this person that you expect the friendship to be draining. But if that’s the case, then recognize it so you can prioritize your well-being and put that energy toward a friend who deserves it.
