There is something about falling in love. Although the feeling is different for some, generally it is about thinking of your partner as the best thing since sliced bread, wanting to spend every minute of the day with them or talking to them, and wanting to do everything together.
What does it mean when all these begin to wane and you find that you are not as attracted to your partner as you used to be. You no longer want to cuddle all the time, all the faults that you once loved are now the source of arguments, even the thought of intimacy makes you cringe.
All these are signs that point to the love being gone. At that point, do a serious check in with yourself. All relationships have ups and downs, and you won’t like each other 24/7/365. But if these things ring true, it may be time to admit to yourself that you are no longer in love with your partner.
They No Longer Excite You As They Used To
It does not matter how long you have been together with your partner, if you are in love, thoughts or memories of them should still be able to excite you. While it is normal that your partner can’t set your heart racing all the time but feeling no rush of feelings around them anymore might be an indicator that things are slowing down between you two.
Physical Intimacy Has Reduced
Hand-holding and any other types of physical touch with your loved one is a sign of affection that many couples display so if you find out that you no longer touch as often as before, it is time to examine your feelings towards each other. Many express their love through physical expressions so if you feel yourself pulling away, you may be falling out of love.
You Don’t Like To Do Things Together Anymore
How often do you and your partner spend quality time and do things together as a couple? It could be evening walks or just doing house chores together. Outings with your partner help to create memories and shared experiences to hold you together but if you both don’t want to spend time around each other, then there may be a deeper meaning behind it.
No More Talks Of The Future
At first, all you can talk about is your future together. You talk about your wedding, where you’ll live, what you’ll name your kids, and how you’ll spend retirement together. How often has the future come up lately? Do you find yourself avoiding the topic? It’s a clear indicator your heart isn’t in it anymore.
Conversations Are Now Arguments
Communication is very essential to the success of any relationship so if you and your partner are talking less and arguing more, it may be a sign that you are no longer in love. There is an excitement in your voice that is palpable when you talk to the one you love but if you are constantly annoyed with your partner or your conversations are pitchy and defensive, it might be worth looking into.
Sex Is A Duty Than Passion
Passionate sex between partners should be for pleasure and enjoyment but when you are not in love with your partner, it may come across as a duty. When out of love, sex becomes difficult and if you’re not having sex, this change in physical intimacy can be apparent in other ways. It is time, to be honest about your feelings, and open up about it to someone you trust. You deserve to enjoy physical intimacy with a partner you love.
“I Love You” Makes You Uncomfortable
You probably feel a little guilty or uncomfortable when your partner tells you they love you. Why? You don’t really feel the same. The worse you feel when they say it, the more obvious it is the love you once felt is fading away.