Having to live with suspicions of a cheating partner is never a cool feeling. These suspicions can drive you crazy as you wonder if it is all in your head or what if it turns out that you are right?
Accusing your partner of cheating when they are not can damage things but confirming that they are cheating also changes things.
These are signs to pay attention to if you suspect your partner is cheating but before you conclude, keep in mind that cheating is subjective. Some people may not consider micro-cheating an actual, legit problem, and others would consider following a new person on IG full-on cheating.
It is always best to be on the same page with your partner about what “cheating” means before you call them out.
They hide things on their phone from you
Does your partner panic when you pick up their phone? Do they try to control what you can or cannot do when using their phone? If your partner is secretive about their phone, then it could mean they are trying to ensure you don’t see certain things that you wouldn’t be cool with. It could be names, chats, photos or what have you. If they constantly have to clear their texts and clear their browsing history, know that it is not a good sign. Everyone deserves their privacy but when it becomes a problem to have access to certain things, you need to begin to ask what they could be hiding.
Lack of intimacy/too much of it
If intimacy is becoming an issue between you and your partner, it is time to wonder what is wrong. A couple is allowed to have their dry spells but when your partner shows no interest in you and becomes distance, cheating may be a reason why. If they want nothing to do with you, it could be because their needs are being satisfied by someone else. On another hand, if their sexual desires increase drastically, it could be a result of guilt and trying to cover their tracks.
They are angry and nervous around you
Is your partner in to sudden outburst of anger or frustration? If someone whom you have always known to be gentle and kind seems to shift towards being nervous and angry, it could be them projecting their fears and insecurities on you. If they are looking back and forth when chatting with you or seem distracted, you need to ask them what is going on.
Their schedule is suddenly different
Is something different about your partner’s schedule that you can’t explain? Do you travel together and suddenly he/she can’t make it? Are there meetings or work-related activities they suddenly need to attend to and you can’t be involved because of company rules? While in itself, it may not be a sign of cheating, it is important to take action to stop the degradation of your relationship.
They are less available
If your partner is dropping hints that they are going to be going offline or away for any length of time and that feels strange to you, you must follow up and ask questions about what’s going on. Some people just need their space, but if you think it is threatening the relationship you cherish, talk to your partner.
You feel yourself becoming anxious/jealous
Listen, trust that gut instinct of yours (it’s almost always right). “If you’ve never been the jealous or suspicious type, but now you’ve developed uneasy feelings and anxiety, something is probably wrong.