In most conventional African societies and many other societies of the world, a man is usually expected to be the one to make the first move when it comes to propositioning a love interest.
However, we live in the 21st century and if you are in 2019, shooting your shot at a guy you like should not be out of the option for you. We understand that many feel a little lost as to how to shoot their shot hence why we have compiled this list just for you!
The fastest and safest way to approach a love interest is to simply ‘man it up’ and walk up to him. Yes, it sounds scary and gives you the jitters but it’s quick and effective. Meet him somewhere you can talk quietly, and tell him you what you like about him. Then ask him if he would like to hang out, could be the cinema doesn’t have to be something fancy. And if you are still having second thoughts, ask yourself: what is the worst that can possibly happen? If he says no, move on dear.
Damsel In Distress Card
Stroke your man crush’s male ego by playing the damsel in distress card because many guys like to think of themselves as supermen who can solve their lady’s problems. Ask him for help for things that make him feel needed/wanted. Even if it is something you know how to do well, you can feign ignorance because the point is to get close to him and who knows, you can even reward him by suggesting a hangout to get to know each other more.
If you think that it might be a bit too forward to shoot your shot at him directly, then you can employ your friend’s help. Instead of just gushing and gossiping about him and your feeling to your friend, you can get them to go on a double date with you.
“Hi. My friend and I plan on seeing a movie this weekend at the cinema. She is coming with her boyfriend. I was wondering if you would like to come with me.”
Make an arrangement with your friends and invite him for a group date. The beach has the perfect ambiance for this kind of date.
The world may have moved into a digital age and nobody writes all those cute and romantic love letters anymore but you would be surprised at just how old-fashioned or romantic your love interest is. You can choose to write him an anonymous love note if you fear that the letter might fall into the wrong hands. It could be a simple “I like you. Call me” note.
Slide-In The DM
Talking about the digital age, another way you can show your love interest is by sliding into his direct message on social media. Before you slide into his DM, make sure that the floor is slippery i.e. he is mature and knows you from his timeline. You can first grab his attention by interacting with his contents or posts. Then you can slide into his DM and make small talk about his post.