A guy pulls up his car beside a girl on the road to ask for directions and in less than six months, they are making plans to walk down the aisle. That’s romance movies for you, if only it’s that easy to meet someone worth dating in real life. Romance in real life is a different ballgame altogether, you get in contact with people almost every day and yet, finding someone you like remains a challenge.
Probably why many people turn to the online dating world, sliding into the DM of different opposite sexes on various social media platforms and dropping suggestive messages. While this can be fun, it does come with its own baggage: confusion, harder time finding someone worth dating due to unlimited options, communications that lack a realistic feel and so on.
Of course, a number of people have met their perfect match online and you can too if you give it a go. However, be open to mixing things up, even if it means getting out of your comfort zone. Exploring these five ways of meeting people can make a whole lot of difference:
Become A Regular Member In A Place Of Interest
You have better chances of meeting someone that shares similar interests with you when you frequently visit places that interest you. It could be a church, gym, a career coaching class or some other place. When you become a fixture in any of these places, you tend to become comfortable. As a result, your confidence grows and talking to people will be less of a big deal.
Attend Friends’ Birthday Parties
Say more ‘yes’ and less ‘no’ to your friends when they invite you to a birthday party. There’s a strong likelihood that you will meet likeminded people in your friend’s birthday party. Sure, most of the time, you may not feel up to going out—especially if you are an introvert but there are no meeting new people without going out.
Be Open To Talking With Strangers
Sometimes, the problem is not that you are not coming across people that may be worth dating, it’s just that you close yourself off to engaging in conversations. An interested stranger is trying to get your attention on a public bus, at the supermarket or in a park but all the while, your eyes are on your phone screen. Tweeting about something you could discuss with the potential date that’s right in front of you.
Say Yes To Set-ups
While you may end up being bored when you go on a date with someone your aunt or mum linked you up with, your friends’ own is definitely worth trying. When your friends tell you they want to set you up with someone, don’t say no, do it. Your friends understand the kind of person you are and will possibly connect you to someone you will click with.
Don’t Rely On Luck
Sure, your ‘how we met’ story can end up being the cute ones that go “he stepped on my sandal while I was walking on the road and begged to fix it and that’s how it all started” or “she helped me pick up my groceries at the supermarket when I dropped them.” It can happen that way but going into every situation in your life and expecting to meet the love of your life can be endlessly disappointing.
You’ve got to be intentional sometimes: expand your social circle, meet new people and strike up conversations.
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