It is hard to be truly happy in a relationship that lacks trust. Partners who value each other and care about being together for a long while will be mindful of building and maintaining trust in their relationship. Unfortunately, though, this trust that took you a lifetime to build can crumble within seconds. And no one even has to cheat or lie for that to happen.
It is often the little things you take no cognizance of that sabotage the trust in your relationship. You may be gradually breaking the trust in your relationship without even knowing that you are. This list should, however, help you check yourself and take a huge step back from doing those things that can negatively affect trust in your relationship.
Lack Of Self-awareness
You don’t even know who you are or you pretend not to. When you talk about yourself, you say grand things like being a highly motivated or active person when you actually spend most of your days on the couch. Even if you believe the positive things you say about yourself, your partner will start seeing you as a liar. It will be hard for them to trust you because you don’t ‘walk it like you talk it.’
You are always not meeting up with the plans you made together but are very good at apologizing. No matter how you try to make it up to your partner later today, if you disappoint too often without a very good explanation, their trust in you begins to diminish. So try to step up and get your acts together.
Talking About Your Loved Ones In A Bad Light
When the people you care about are present with you, you have only good things to say about them and act like they are the best in the world but once they turn their backs, all you have to say about them are trashy. If this is the kind of person you are, you can be sure your partner will begin to wonder what you say about them behind their backs and that’s not good for trust.
You Act Shady
You don’t say where you are going to, you sneak out, whisper when you talk on the phone or never share tidbits about your day—your actions are generally shady.
Of course, even with all these habits you exhibit, you may be innocent of anything your partner is suspecting you of. However, trust requires being more open.
You Are Judgmental
It is not easy to confide in someone that is judgmental. If you are the judgmental type, you can be sure that your partner will be withholding some personal stuff about their life from you to avoid being judged. And that bodes ill for the kind of healthy relationship you dream of having.