You hear people throw phrases like that around about “whether you are in love with him or the idea of him?” but don’t really give it much thought till you start dating someone. It is often that way, feelings can be confusing. Sometimes the lines get blurry between being in love with someone and being in love with love. Knowing for sure which of the two you are experiencing can be somewhat difficult.
But it will be unfair for the love to be one-sided. So instead of wasting your time being with someone you don’t love, why don’t you weigh your feelings on the scale of these 5 signs that show you love the idea of him more than you love him?
You Miss Him Mostly When You Feel Lonely
When you love someone, you’d miss being in their company, right? Right! But when they don’t cross your mind when you are having fun or neck deep in work, you probably don’t love them. It can’t be love if the only time you miss your boyfriend is when you are alone on your bed at night or when you just feel like talking to somebody.
Their Imperfections Keep Bothering You
Love is something that happens overtime after you’ve spent a lot of quality time with that person and seen him at his lowest. But if it’s difficult for you to get over or accept his imperfections, you are probably in love with the idea of love and not him. It is not about tolerating it either; it is about forgetting that those imperfections are there most of the time.
You Subconsciously Don’t Make Any Efforts In The Relationship
When you truly love someone with all your heart, you want to see the relationship work and you will join hands with the person to make it work. But if they are the ones always doing the work and you are not even mindful of it, then it’s not love, obviously.
The More Time You Spend With Him, The More Bored You Become
With the guy you are in love with, every second is special even the most basic moments when you are not doing much. You will want to grab every opportunity to spend more time with them. Your feeling bored or not excited about life around them is really not a good sign.
You Want Everyone To Know You Have A Boyfriend
Sure, he will always be on your mind and be the first thing you think about in the morning when you are in love with him. But seizing almost every opportunity you get to make people you know and even mere acquaintances know that you have a boyfriend, is just you loving the idea of having a boyfriend.
While these signs should not be ignored, also be aware that love is something that grows with time. You can’t really love someone until you know them better. Don’t expect movie kind of romance, be realistic!
