Ladies, if he loves you then he should put a ring on it, right? Right! Yet, he says he loves you and you are madly in love with him and yet he won’t have the marriage talk with you. He freaks out when you raise the topic of your relationship’s destination or is always breaking your heart with tons of excuses about why he can’t have a bonding time with you.
And he does know how to keep you happy and confused at the same time, flooding you with gifts to apologize for his never-ending ‘fuck-ups.’ And you can’t help but wonder why the guy you think is your soul mate doesn’t want to commit. Well, the ultimate answer to that question is between your boyfriend and God. But in the meantime, here are some possible reasons (from a guy’s perspective) why your man doesn’t want to commit:
The Timing Is Just Not Right
He probably does care for you and thinks you are an amazing person. But while you are ready to settle down, he has this whole idea of establishing himself financially and professionally first before making any commitment. He feels he won’t be able to give you the time and attention you deserve as he is just starting out in life and will want to give his career more attention—selfish though it may seem.
So believe him when he gives you that “it’s not you, it’s me” phrase.
His Past Experience Was Bad
Your man has got trust issues; demons from his past are still haunting him. Okay, that does sound diabolical, like you’ve come to a shrine to glimpse into your partner’s past. But honestly, your boyfriend’s bad experience with women in the past could be another reason why he doesn’t want to commit.
Maybe he made plans to commit in his past relationship but then the woman turned around and walked away, grinding his heart to dust. It took a while for him to console himself and get over that phase of his life before you came around. It’s best to ask him about this.
He Feels Pressured
Hol’up with the badgering or firing plenty questions about commitment or marriage at your man. Sure, it’s important to have the serious conversations in a relationship but don’t make this a habit. If your partner feels pressured, like you are always pushing him to agree to your demands, he may move away from you.
He Loves Being Single
Yea, it could be that your partner is still very much interested in the chase. He is not ready to be tied down yet. The freedom and flexibility of the single life still appeals to him. He wants to be able to flirt with a girl he likes and have as much sex as he wants with different girls without feeling guilty. You bringing up all these serious talks about commitment is just making him think if it’s time to move on.
He Is Just Not Into You
Seriously, no matter how much a man craves the excitement and fun of bachelorhood or wants to chase after his dreams, he will make efforts to keep you around if he is into you. If your man doesn’t engage in serious talks with you or doesn’t include you in his future plans, it is likely that he is not into you.
In this case, it is best to simply walk out of the relationship and make yourself available to men who are ready to commit to you.
Is your man showing signs that he doesn’t want to commit? What do you think is the reason?